Sunday, November 8, 2015

Disconnect to connect…!!!

We are a busy generation, aren’t we? Thanks god, we are born in this era of mobile communication revolution. The whole world of www is on our figure tips. Every one of us, including me has the power to make any information reach the whole world in a fraction of seconds. We are always in touch of others through Facebook, Whatsapp or Twitter and tons of other media. Have you ever thought how this whole phenomenon of virtual connection is affecting us? Well, I guess most of us, at some point of time in their life have felt it. Yes, it’s true that as of our human nature we observe shortcomings of others very easily than ours.
“It was a simple time, as could feel, slower too...”
If you’re born in 90s or before, you can remember how it was, a time before mobile phones, iPad’s and computers arrived. It was a simple time, as I could feel, slower too. Probably, because every moment was lived, yes lived. I remember how interesting were those days when we used to socialize with our cousins after a long time at some special occasion or get-togethers. I realized it recently, at one such occasion when every one of us was busy with our phones surfing facebook and whattsapp. In those old days, we mostly use to hang outside and enjoy things like playing some outdoor or indoor games, cycle rides and all. Let me share an observation, while travelling by public transport after work I mostly look outside the window and notice one very common scene. In most of the car carrying members of a family, everyone except the driver are seen to be engaged in same activity. I hope you can guess. So, many of us must have observed scenarios like this.
“The pings or ringtones…”
I believe all of us who are overly attached to the gadget either knowingly or unknowingly are not living any moment at fullest. So what is that creating the fuss, “the pings or ringtones” creating the very moment of disconnect. You hear a ping, and mini-moment of disconnect is created, as we abandon the people we were in conversation with, engaged with, eating with.  We land somewhere else with someone else. How good is this? But we make such mistakes, don’t we? It has changed the meaning of being together. Compare it with a situation when you are at a party, talking to someone and his eyes are scanning the crowd, sometime over the gate, sometimes towards the fountain for someone. The very next moment you realize that he is less interested in you, so you just give an excuse and try to move on to find someone who can be with you, with whom you can share things.
Now doubt these gadgets are inevitable in establishing communication and they are extremely powerful. Yes, power comes with conditions of its own. Power can be addictive to a level of destruction. The addiction should be checked out for it leads to doom. Let’s be judicious in use of these streams. The rat race of useless facebook post, as if you are getting paid off to put every single detail of your life online. Grow up man, live your life for the sake of living and not for sensational post and broadcast.
Connect with the people around your surroundings, share with them, instead of hanging out on virtual chats and those group chats. The neighbor next door, the guard, the next door children, your parents and relatives with whom you live with, that old and gentle couple, talk to them, share smile with them, they will surely smile back unlike your mobile screen which never returns your smile back to you.   
I know it’s hard to implement, neither for me nor for you, but not that hard as realization is first step to change. Watch this small video, I found it on YouTube.
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Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Tiring days..!!

One busy day, while laying on bed at night after turmoil and all running from post to pole, I was feeling weak. I pondered, is this life, getting up early hurrying to get ready, reaching bus stop, office, again bus stop, marketing, home, study, dinner and then sleep and the repeating cycle. The pain in muscles of leg, hand, neck and back adding headaches to me. Is this what life should be?

Then one day just opposite happens all free I was for the whole day. Getting up late at 9, no bath, Facebook , Twitter, WhatsApp, chatting, then walk at evening, dinner and then to bed. To my surprise I was again, not happy!! I thought, I should be happy, but not, I was even more sad. Spending a day without challenge, task, without some growth seems suffocating.

This day spent without any challenge and hardship made me grateful to all the hectic, tough, toiling and tiring day to come. Attitude matters. I am ready for you the tough day, with all open arms.

Going to bed with pain and strains in nerves is WORTH..!!

Sunday, August 23, 2015

19th July, 15'( ugliest day of my life),the day you passed away..

Everyone who has come here has to go, one day, some day, leaving all attachments, everything. You too went away, without giving us anytime, hastily. Yes, you were never slow, you were electric, always lively, always inspiring. Wherever you went, you created a life in moment, there was truly an aura in your personality, charge flew out of you.

"Keep Fit..Keep Fighting...Keep Smiling", beta( son ) you always repeated on phone. From whom I would seek those lessons and direction.
You were there in every low time with your counseling and words, specially during my stay at Kota, those frustrating days of preparations. The long phone calls we had would not be there anymore.
With time we would get strength and conviction to live, without you, as life has to go on. But these days and nights are fearful as if life has lost its motive and direction. We are moving like that conductor of bus, who is on journey everyday but has to go nowhere.
Though you are always  alive in our heart, our conscience, our thought, but life is never the same. Success and achievement in life to come are not going to that special without your presence and your long list of blessings. Especially, the birthday's to come would be missing your long and exaggerated blessings that you used to pour on phone calls. Same would be missed every new year, every Diwali, holi, every good and bad occasions.

Life has to go on, and we have to learn to walk without your support, your constant encouragement, your wishes. There were things to be shared, moments to be cherished, things to be learnt.

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Are we really average of five??

Most of the time we have been directed by our elders to be in good friend circle and to have good company. You must have seen your parents disappointed seeing you with some bad companion, friend or group. Do our peer really affects us?

  While I was trying to figure it out I went through various writings by motivational guru. I came through a principal which says " You are the average of five people you associate with most". There were many others who tried to prove this wrong and many who supported it. Thats good a coin has its two side.
Well those who opposed, argued that most of the time we live with our family members mom, spouse, dad, brother etc. etc...or with coworkers, colleagues at work, school, college etc. etc. etc.... Is it justifiable to leave these practically inseparable part of our live for the reason that they are not so competent as you consider yourself? Mom, I can't live with you, though you are BESTEST mom, but you are not a business tycoon and since I am trying to hone entrepreneur in me, you don't fit.. :) :)
Similarly with dad, close friend etc. etc.etc...

But, I don't see these as true reasoning rather they seem to be negative criticism. We must have feel this personally that people, their company do effect us. I tried to think of different place I have been in life, two different schools, a coaching, graduation college, workplace and how the people with whom I interacted or associated more effected me. You too try this.
Imagine yourself being in a group which always talks of low value things of pity relevance, complaining and discussing about someones shortcomings etc.etc., things which are not valuable in any sense. If you would stick with them, aren't you going to be like them??
Now suppose you hangout with group of friends who have fruitful, valuable discussion on varied topic entrepreneurship, technology, trend, investment etc.etc.etc. Wouldn't it be beneficial??
Why do some particular college or institute have different products. On an average you can easily find difference in attitude of particular student group..lets take UPTU/PTU verses IIT, IIT/NIT verses MIT/HARWARD..

So  according to my opinion is  there is no need to disconnect with the vitals or inseparable part of your life( cos they are the most beautiful part of your life, your roots, your family, relatives, your school/college friends)[ notes- unless they are really detrimental and negative..]
Do have time for them as and when needed without any compromise.

But, do expand your circle with those more knowledgeable, smarter and talented than you. They are going to teach you a lot in life to move ahead. In the process of competing and sharing with them you would improve and improve yourself to better a you..!!!

So start searching, hunting and associating the 5..of whose average you want to be :)

Friday, July 3, 2015

From that careless college life to hectic corporate life..


College life to hectic corporate life..



In life there are various transitions that takes place & this transition phase is always very special, remarkable, memorable in various sense.
Remember the first time when you were moved out to school, those nursery class. The all carefree environment of home ends to the disciplined boundary of school, the classes, queue, timetables, teachers and all. Waking up daily, hurried up my mom for bath, breakfast and finally to bus, which lands you to the place you hated. Slowly the year passes and school become your very beautiful part of life, yours friends, mates, gossips, fight, crushes and all.
Such a very drastic, I would say challenging turn takes in our life when we join corporate world after the end of our college.

Well in India when most of my generation chose engineering, how could I miss? Yes, the four year of B.Tech life was “LIFE” (missing college life means missing life).
The inspirational line at college “ Ab ni krega to kya college khatm hone pr krega” moves you to do every shit thing. The late night discussion, birthday bumps, bunking, college fests, gaming, the groupings, last moment preparations at semesters ends and all. This is how your college life winds up and you get placed in some organization.
From the carefree protected world you are now in all real world which is not going to be protective in any sense. This is when you are going to experience lot of changes:


Responsibilities:

The deadlines to be met..!! From now you are going to be assigned with various responsibilities to be completed in a given time frame. Deadlines at college were met by copying assignment at the last moments, that's not going to work here any more.


Punctuality:

At college you never cared to reach classes on time. The first lecture was seldom attended by most of the folks. At office you punch in and punch out the biometric, 10 minutes exceeding your time you 
are on half day payment.



Worth of money:

Till the college your ATM is your Dad, account filled at the first week of month, never giving you chance to realise how the hard earned money all comes.
At job life you know the value of every penny you earned with hard work.


Helplessness:

At college you never cared for those helping hand, the professors who used to force for benefits of yours. Always ready to clear up your doubts. At work no-one is available to help you out, everyone is overburdened with their own responsibilities and work.


No bunking:

At college, it was all your will to attend a lecture or to bunk it. All you needed to fulfill a given minimum criteria to keep away from any detention. Also you have friends for proxy.
Now you need prior approval on leave slip, with your boss's eyebrows always raised for the reasons.

Self egos, arrogance to be eaten up:

While you are a trainee, you are sure to make mistakes, get scolded sometimes, sometimes you get played tricks being accountable for things someone else did wrong. Sometimes you would be asked for some petty work like getting documented photocopied or scanned. 
But off all these you can't go arrogant or lessen your interactions cos more you interact more you would learn from those experienced one..

If you have forgotten your college life watch this video..

Monday, March 9, 2015

The Red Cycle..

..While sitting in veranda this sunny day of early summer alone ,my mind was drifting to past. In the solitary, chirping sound of  bird, rattling of dried leave on trees nearby, I went back to the childhood era of my small town. It was the bicycle of my small nephew, which took me there. Every child has his bicycle as best buddy, so was mine, red, almost similar one, but with lots of stickers of Aladdin, Mickey mouse, Donald duck and other characters from my only tv show 'Disney hour' that I had pasted all over it. We would be together after school everyday, roaming around the dusty summer road of my muhalla, with other children from neighborhood. Toiling on it some more distances to reach school friend who lived next block. I remember how I have to wait endlessly in case it got punchered, creating a kind of small hurricane in home to get it done anyhow, as the mechanic shop was on the other side of road. 
Bathing it every sunday,then oiling every nook and corner of it to make it shine. This is how our friendship was, I don't remember when we seprated,probably when I moved to boarding school, it was sold out to kabadawala, after it got rusted being lonely on roof..!!
...You would be missed!!



Friday, August 1, 2014

...move Onnn..!!

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